Unmet basic needs such as proper rest, food, water, and fresh air, along with a lack of mental stimulation, social interaction, and physical and mental rest, directly affect relationships and self-love. Self-love, a relationship with oneself, requires that we care for our bodies, minds, emotional, and energetic well-being. It is a skill set that many adults and children do not practice.
First, let us unveil the benefits of self-love. Self-love plays an important role in brain function. It stimulates the release of neurotransmitters like dopamine and serotonin, which improve cognitive functions such as memory, learning, and problem-solving. It helps individuals cope better with stress and adversity, reducing the impact of cortisol (the stress hormone) on the brain and promoting resilience. It facilitates better focus and attention by activating the brain’s prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for executive functions like decision-making and concentration.
Now, let’s address the problem:
How we view and treat ourselves is in interplay with our environment, interactions, relationships, and our physical, emotional, mental, and energetic bodies. Often, self-love and relationships are viewed separately, but they are interconnected. For example, how can a partner offer support to their partner if they are running low on energy? How can a mom console their child if they are tired and hungry? While the problem is in the solution, it goes deeper.
Self-love is a learned skill that requires daily practice. Daily self-love practices, such as self-care rooted in present moment practices, require observation of self-talk, thoughts, and feelings. This can be challenging for people because they may think their relationships, friendships, parenting, and interactions have nothing to do with their self-love. It can also feel triggering, isolating, and accusatory. What can help shift the perspective is to view self-love as part of everyday life practice necessary for optimal brain function and overall well-being. The added benefit is its positive impact on relationships and interactions.
Here are a few tips on practicing self-love:
Engage in daily affirmations of self-love.
Incorporate a daily non-negotiable self-care routine.
Engage in body and mind present-moment practices to enhance your self-care routine.
Keep a mindful journal of thoughts, feelings, and self-talk.
Add mindful movement through breath and body awareness.
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